Shola Gąska's Family Petitions FG Over Polish Husband Cremation of Her Body
The family of a Nigerian woman, Mrs. Shola Gąska, who died suddenly in Poland has decried the cremation of their daughter’s body by her Polish husband without their consent and permission, even as they equally insist that they are indeed most suspicious over the manner of her death. This is coming even as shock and anger continue to trail news of the sad incident following social media posts on the subject.
In a press release, the family of Oluwashola Atunrayo Gąska (nee Adefolalu) condemned her Polish husband Jakub (Kuba) Gąska, for taking the decision even after their protest following the sudden death of their sister in circumstances the family deem as suspicious.
‘The news of the death of Oluwashola Atunrayo Gąska (nee Adefolalu) fondly known as ‘Sholly’ came as a rude shock to her family and friends back home in Nigeria,’ said the family representative, Barrister Bunmi Jasmine Omeke, a cousin of the deceased in a statement. ‘More devastating was the effect of the report of her cremation by her husband, just a few days after her death, to the eldest sister of the deceased, Mrs Bola ‘Salt Essien-Nelson.’
According to the statement, none of the family members (immediate or extended) was allowed to pay their last respects to ‘Sholly’, nor were they allowed to sight her body. ‘The only reason given by her husband was that he was fulfilling his wife’s ‘wishes’.
Her elder sister, Essien-Nelson, the statement further read, received a phone call about her sister’s death at about 11.00am on the 28th of December, 2016. According to the sister, this call came just days after a chatty and lively phone conversation with the deceased in faraway Poland (December 24th). During this call, there was no suggestion of any serious ailment, she said.
‘To date, the only proof of Sholly’s death is a scanned copy of the death certificate with the alleged cause of death being secondary anaemia and ‘tumour on the uterus’.
According to Mr. Jakub Gąska, his wife fell ill on Tuesday, 28th of December, 2016. He told her that he rushed the deceased to the hospital and had his sister look after her while he went back to work where he got the news of Sholly’s death early on Wednesday morning.
Mrs Essien-Nelson had commenced travel arrangements along with her husband to pay her last respects to her late sister when she was notified by Mr Jakub Gąska that the late Shola had requested that her body be cremated after her death and that Mrs Essien-Nelson should be the only one to see her body before cremation. Yet, he refused to wait for her to travel to Poland to do so.
The late woman’s family alleged that several calls were made to Mr. Gąska by the Adefolalu family and friends, Nigerians in Poland and even the Nigerian Embassy in Poland to no avail. His final words on the matter were that ‘the cremation will proceed as planned and there is nothing anyone can do about it’.
In spite of these several pleas, he went ahead to cremate his dead wife on January 2, 2017. Not only that, he held a burial service to bury the ashes on January 7, 2017 without officially informing any member of her Nigerian family.
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The late Olushola’s family are suspicious of foul play in the death of their sister:
‘We understand Jakub has the final say over the funeral rites for late Sholly and as shocking as the cremation request was, we were willing to honour her ‘supposed’ wishes. What we could not understand was why her husband has deprived our family of the opportunity of paying our last respects to our daughter, sister, niece, cousin and aunt. We want to know why Jakub was in such a hurry to cremate our sister. We want to know how he came about Sholly’s death wish since he was not with her at the time of passing. We want to know if death certificate is enough evidence of the cause of Sholly’s death. Where is the autopsy report? We want to know exactly what caused Sholly’s death’, said the statement.
Shola, aged 36-year old went to Poland to study Architecture in 2000, later met her Polish husband there and they were married in 2010.
The family is calling on the Polish authorities as well as the Nigerian Embassy in Poland, the Federal Government and relevant agencies to investigate the sudden and suspicious death of their relative and circumstances surrounding the handling of her body.
Taken from the Difference News
My Dear Sholly
I’m so grateful to God that you are far away from all the drama going on down here right now. As if losing you isn’t devastating enough, we are now dealing with your husband, Kuba claiming it was your wish to be cremated. Sholly? Really? Cremated ke? Why would you want that? It’s not our culture.
As hard as I find this to believe it’s even harder to believe you would not have told me if it were so. You told me everything! We hid nothing from each other! If it is true this ‘unholy’ discussion about how you wanted to be cremated and about how no one in your family was to be allowed to see your body ever took place, I can only wonder why? Why? Who discusses such things? You were not sick and you are not old. So what would have warranted such a discussion between you and Kuba?
So today, in spite of all our pleading with your husband, In spite of us getting the Nigerian embassy in Poland involved and him being directed to hold till a family member gets there and sees you, we believe he has had you cremated. Ah! It breaks my heart. How could Kuba do this to me? To my family? Aburo mi? It pains me deeply.
Kuba says you said nobody must see your body. He says you said that only I will be permitted to see you yet he refused to wait for me and my husband to process our visas and conclude travel plans. Truth is, these discussions just boggle the mind! Why were you two discussing this kind of matter? And what’s is the evidence?
I am being made to understand that in Poland, Kuba as your husband, has the final say because you have officially taken his last name and that’s fine. As horrifying as this cremation idea was to us, we were prepared to honor your supposed wishes. All we asked for was the opportunity to pay you our last respects first as a family. Kuba has denied us of that and for this I leave him and his family to God to mete out vengeance on my behalf.
Yes, Sholly, they must pay for robbing us, me, your SisterMom of closure. For thinking it right that we should travel all the way from Nigeria to look into an urn full of ashes! Ah! What a tragedy this is! How painful!!! My darling, I will not travel to Poland for that. It’s fine. You are not in the ashes. Neither were you in the lifeless body anymore but most people, faiths and cultures I know make provision for a lying in state ceremony during which family and friends of a lost love one can pay their last respects. It soothes them and brings closure.
Why your husband has chosen not to give us this ‘gift’ is beyond me. To any friends of Kuba reading this, please ask him. Why? Why would he do this to us? Why couldn’t he just wait for me to get to Poland?
As much as I don’t want to, I just can’t help wonder if Kuba and his family are hiding something. Because if there’s nothing to hide, why the hurry to cremate Sholly? If there is nothing to hide why the blunt refusal to let a family member see her body on my behalf? Why